Every minute of our lives should be happy ones

by barbaraluther on May 30, 2012

I saw a billboard the other day that said something to the effect that every minute of our lives should be happy ones. Talk about setting us up to be unhappy! How would we know happy if every minute was the same? How can we appreciate our health if we’ve only ever been healthy? And just because it looks like others can do things easily, why do we automatically assume we should be able to do those things the same way? Are we aspiring, really, to all be the same? I hope not. That would make for a pretty boring world.

As we move through our lives, we also come to expect things to be the way we like them and to stay pretty much the same. If I’ve been healthy, I expect to stay healthy. If I’ve managed to be successful or find my work easy and enjoyable, I want it to stay that way. But life is dynamic and ever changing. Running into bumps and detours is actually the norm, so staying adaptable is important.

A Buddhist meditator once reflected, “You’re thinking that how things used to be is normal. But they’re just how things used to be. What does that have to do with now?”

We can spend our time arguing with what is right now, or we can choose to work with what we have. It’s not about good or bad, better or worse; it’s about accepting what is right now and deciding how to create a rich life with it.

Our ADHD definitely changes over time, just as our circumstances and environments change. We can complain and fret or we can get curious how to work with our ADHD as it is today. Where could our unique brain wiring be useful? Explore! Seek! Look for what’s easy and fun. Follow those clues. You may just find yourself quite pleasantly surprised.

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